Plastic Paddies Making Good

17 March, 2009

in the social round,we are family

Three years ago, Mariella came down from Wellington and she and Archie and I went out for some St. Patrick’s Day drinks.  Not really wanting to throw ourselves into the green-beer-and-novelty-outfits spirit of the day, we took the theme “bringing the snakes back to Ireland”, distributing jelly snakes to those around us, and drinking vodka shots in which we soaked said confectionery reptiles.  This proved less than successful, when it turned out that most of our fellow bar patrons hadn’t heard of the snake-banishing part of the St. Patrick legend.

Not too far into the evening, we were joined by a friend of Archie’s.  He and I talked about student politics, in which he’d been involved; I thought at the time he was a typical blowhard of that scene.  At one point we were stopped on the street by a man who’d come down to visit his son and was worried about the effects of binge drinking on young people.  Overhearing us discussing student drinking, he wanted some advice.  We talked a while, but things got confusing when it became clear he thought we were a married couple and we had to explain we’d just met.

I ran into Archie’s friend one or two times socially later that year, including one morning when he and Archie were stumbling out of Mariella’s house just as I was stumbling in, newly single and in need of a coffee and some eggs.  We didn’t say anything at that time, but it put his presence back in my mind enough that I struck up a conversation with him at a party a few months later.  It would be twee to say the rest was history, but it has been history of a kind.

(Hat-tip to MTNW for the title.)





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merc 18 March, 2009 at 08:41

I have to believe that people are sent to us (by whom! by what?) when we are most at need, and it is best to simply wait for their arrival…
Hebrews 13;2
Forget not to show love unto strangers: for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.
I read this at D’s funeral because I met D when she was the only one who read my pathetic flatmate wanted ad. I had never placed a flatmate wanted ad before because I was a solo Dad and thought it all a little fraught…boy did I have other plans made for me.
Love is a symbol.

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harvestbird 18 March, 2009 at 15:16

I sometimes think that destiny is a function of hindsight, seeing the happy configuration of unexpected events.

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merc 18 March, 2009 at 15:39

Configuring events from hindsight is a function of a certain type of memory (there are many types of memory)…paging Mr Giovanni.
The main muse of poetry is apparently Mneme…memory, but I don’t buy into that (Greek and Roman slaves of the sword and all that). For me the dividing line between fate and destiny is the ethical decision made…how memory treats it has to with conscience.
Paging Dr Freud.

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harvestbird 18 March, 2009 at 17:33

Memory and conscience, eyeing each other, if not from across the room, then across the table!

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merc 18 March, 2009 at 18:36

And then unconscious memory shows up to play the silent mysterious other at the end of the table…quietly ordering you drinks that you don’t want and looking for all the world like a possible relation, whispering innuendo and grotesque jokes.

merc’s last post was Return.

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Giovanni 18 March, 2009 at 21:00

Reading the past like a story that had to unfold a particular way is such a human thing to do, isn’t it? Justine and I met across a table at a youth hostel in Edinburgh on August 18th, 1991. I was writing to my father (it was his birthday) she was writing to her parents (it was their anniversary). My personal cosmology demands that I call this a coincidence, but I can’t bring myself to.

Love is a symbol.

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merc 18 March, 2009 at 21:19

Synchronicity the fourth acausal principle, or Cupid, the same thing really, we’ve just renamed our Gods.

merc’s last post was Return.

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